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Kids of Separated Parents: The Annual Holiday Access Dispute
about the last minute gift shopping. The real issue for separated parents this
season is who gets what time with the kids. With divorce seemingly as popular as
marriage, more and more kids will be subject to the annual access dispute
carving them in half with less care than the turkey. Then to assuage parental
guilt for their interminable situation, these kids will be dressed finer than
the turkey with all the niceties from designer clothes to the latest in
newfangled electronics. Thanks mom and dadÖ and mom and dad. Gobble gobble.
course the risk of settling holiday access at the last minute includes upset
moms, upset dads and upset grandparents. If the kids arenít upset, it is
likely because they have learned how to milk the situation for their own gain.
More gobble gobble. (Get the point?)
the holidays of yore.
the above is not quite what you had in mind this holiday season and access
isnít yet resolved, consider the following:
time is stressful enough what with gift buying, planning for the kidsí time
off, seeing family and all. The added stress of settling holiday access can
derail what should be a happy occasion into a tangle of hurt feelings. Give a
little to get a little, think outside the box and most importantly, consider the
kids. Anytime with parents and family can be wonderful and magical.
Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
For information on Direnfeld's book, Raising Kids Without Raising Cane, click here.
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